"Walang Forever"

You have no idea how many people keep saying "walang forever" with a bitter tone in their voice. If I got a pound for how many people have said it or mentioned it on social media, I'd probably be rich by now.

For those who don't know the saying "walang forever," I'll explain it to you. I'm not exactly sure where it originated from, but it's mostly said by the people from my home-country (Philippines) who got rejected or got their heartbroken. In English, it means "there's no such thing as forever."

In truth, there is no such thing as forever (in human context, at least), because in the Merriam-Webster Dictionary it means "for a limitless time." Limitless as in there's no end to it. Forever would be impossible, because everyone dies at some point. They can't exactly say "I'll love you forever" and mean it, right?

The thing is though, (and I've gotten this from a friend) forever may not exist, but for a lifetime does. There are so many beautiful love stories out there and one of the most beautiful ones is grandma and grandpa loving each other until their last breath. Don't you just want to believe that somewhere out there is the right one waiting for you when you see two old people do HHWW (Holding Hands While Walking) and still giving each other kisses? *sighing dreamily*

The funny thing is, people who often say "walang forever" are those aged between 14-20. Aren't they a little young to say that kind of thing? It's not the end of the world when you and your boyfriend/girlfriend break up and it's not like there's no one else that would be right for you.

There are approximately 7.4 billion people in the world and one of them is your Mr/Ms Right, so you shouldn't worry too much about it. You should worry about your relationship with Jesus first, your grades in school/college, and getting a job after you've gotten your degree before going into a serious relationship.

If you and your boyfriend/girlfriend broke up... Think of it this way, God saved you from ending up with the wrong one. If you ended up with him/her, you would've been miserable. Some relationships just don't work out, because you weren't meant for each other. I know it hurts, but the scars that we got from being heartbroken are what taught us to be more careful of whom we give our hearts to.

A piece of advice: don't always believe what your heart tells you, because the heart can be deceitful (Jeremiah 17:9).

We often fall in love with the idea of love that we settle for the people who aren't even right for us. There are so many signs that tell us we're with the wrong person, but we still go on as if everything's just peachy.

Never settle for the love that you think you deserve. What does this even mean? It means that we often think we deserve the kind of love that we see on TV or we read in books. You know? The ones that are so passionate that they can't control themselves and do all kinds of stupid things... Those are just movies and books. They're fictional. They're based on someone's imagination and what they think love is supposed to be.

What is love?

"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres." 1 Corinthians 13:4-7

👆 This... This right here is the kind of love that we deserve (by God's grace). This kind of love comes from God alone because God is love. I always tell my friends that forever does exist, but only with God. When you're saved and you pass away some day, you'll be in Heaven and God will still love you. Therefore, "walang forever" does not apply to your relationship with God.

Anyway, I understand that you got your heart broken which meant that you lost hope in finding the right person for you, but the thing is... we often find love in the most unexpected circumstances. God will show you who you're meant to be with, only if you open your eyes and listen to His will. Also, pray for your future partner - pray that he/she is alright, pray that God will give him/her strength in her weakness, etc. Because even if you don't know him/her yet, God knows who's that prayer for. You can ask God, "please give me *name of person*" all you want, but He can also say "I've got someone else in mind for you. Just be patient." This is where "TRUE LOVE WAITS" comes in. "Be still before the Lord and wait patiently for him..." Psalm 37:7

For the ones who think they're too old to ever get married, it's either he/she will come in God's perfect time or you will live the rest of your life in singleness. Mind you, being single isn't a bad thing. Why? Because being single isn't so much a "gift," but an honour to be unmoved by the concerns of the world and simply devote yourself to living faithfully to God's calling and serving Him joyfully with your lives just like Paul in the Bible did (1 Corinthians 7).

With that said, does it really matter whether you're single, married or in a relationship? What matters most is your relationship with Jesus. Now that's a love story that will last forever - Him dying on the cross for us, despite being undeserving of it.

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